Guilty Of Love

A man and his friend are walking down the street. One holds a bouquet of roses. His friend asks, “What did you do?”

The first man chuckles and says, “Just wanted to get my wife roses.”

The second man looks at his friend and says, “Come on, you can tell me, what did you do?”

The first man says, “My wife loves roses.”

Clearly the second man was convinced that the first man felt guilty about something and wanted to assuage his guilt by buying his wife roses. Judging from the first man’s demeanor, he knew that his gesture would make his wife’s day.

It was an interesting volley between the men that got me thinking, ‘Are men and women really that different?’

Don’t we all want love and appreciation from our spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend? Don’t we want to be everything to the ones we love?

I have a theory that flowers cause us to remember love. The fact that the man bought his wife roses meant that he was spreading love. Love is a catalyst.

No one knows the power of love like a florist. They know the joy and symbolism of flowers.

When the man bought them from the florist, the love energy was formulating. He shared his enthusiasm with the florist who in return expanded that energy by sharing his excitement.

As the man walked down the street, everyone who saw him smiled and thought, “That’s sweet.” (How can you not smile when you see roses?)

In essence they send their energy to the roses and by the time the roses get to the man’s wife, it has a trail of love attached to it and she feels all of that energy and attributes it to her husband.

I think a man giving flowers is sweet. I think a woman giving flowers to a man is sweet. Anything that accentuates our love for one another is nice.

In New Guinea, scholars noted a lot of elderly natives there had missing fingers. Research revealed that it was the custom years ago for a young fighting man to give his lucky girlfriend a finger cut from the hand of an opponent. And the girlfriend wore that finger on a string around her neck.

I still prefer flowers over fingers, but sometimes I can use an extra hand. (Insert laughter)

Researchers have shown that when a man buys flowers, he tends to pick red. A woman, though, is inclined to go for pink, or blue, or whatever off-hue is at hand. Personally I like red, orange, yellow. I don’t think I would ever pick pink or blue.

The real question is why would we be suspicious of a man bearing gifts? Something in their past? Our past? Not knowing how to accept love? Lack of trust?

The "Love Detector" service from Korean cell phone operator KTF uses technology that supposedly analyzes voice patterns to see if a lover is speaking honestly and with affection. Users later receive an analysis of the conversation delivered through text message that breaks down the amount of affection, surprise, concentration and honesty of the other speaker.

Wouldn’t this be great if it worked. Technology would do all of our work for us, but it wouldn’t be able to tell us if we love the person for who they are. It wouldn’t be able to measure those priceless memories spent with the ones we love.

So what would you think if your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend bought you flowers unexpectedly? Would you be suspicious or appreciative?