House Of Love

I love those home design shows. They show the most beautiful homes and what you can do to enhance them.

Some homes have exquisite landscaping, stunning architecture, and everything else that makes a magnificent home. 

The design, attention to detail and workmanship that goes into completing a custom built home is awe-inspiring.

It’s like building a house of love, you start with a solid foundation and build from the ground up because if you have foundation problems, you will have problems with everything that sits on top of it. 

If your relationships are not solid and built with care and consideration, they will sink. Remember that your entire foundation will be affected by your choices in type, material and construction.

Your house of love will also need doors. What kind of doors depends on what you want. You can have a glass door where light comes in or it can be opaque. You can leave it open, closed or it may revolve. Again it depends on your choices.

What about high ceilings? They may offer the feeling of infinite space, or encourage complex cogitation as opposed to low ceiling where you may feel confined. 

Add a couple of skylights and voila, you can ponder the Pleiades. You have room to levitate and still feel down to earth. The greatest love is “grounded levitation” with room to grow.

Your house of love will also need walls. Even if you like the open plan feel, you will still need walls. You need them to separate but not feel isolated. 

Think of walls as boundaries (your time with yourself). Your neighbors may not be able to build beyond their property boundary line, but you can build beyond your personal boundary line. 

Two aspects of relationships; engulfment and abandonment come into play. If you do too much together, you may eventually feel that you are losing your identity. If you don’t do enough together, you may feel left out.

You need boundaries because people may take you for granted when you don’t speak up. If there is something that your partner wants you to do and you don’t want to do it, this is a good time to play the boundary card. In cricket, boundaries count as points.

There are so many other characteristics to a house of love. You have to also consider good lighting, windows, flooring, painting, decor, and everything you want out of love. 

Be careful of putting too many expectations on it because love will often redefine it.

Relationships are time consuming and need frequent renovation. Love is really what you make it. You design it, build it and live in it. Where you love is where you live. It's your permanent residence. 

It’s your house of love.