Aside from the fact that people say they love you, how do you know that you are really loved?
Do actions play more of a role than words? Do you just “know” you are loved regardless of any action or words? Well, you are fortunate if you do.
I was speaking to someone the other night who was very depressed. When I questioned why he felt that way, he uttered “I’ve never felt loved.”
I was shocked to hear that. This person is attractive, popular, comes from a good family, has friends, a great job and he seems to be well adjusted.
Theoretically, he has a combo meal of everything that makes people happy; at least on the outside. But on the inside the story is different.
People would kill to be in his shoes. But like the old “grass is green” adage, once they got into his shoes, would they kill to get out of them?
I am not a trained psychologist, but I am a trained observationist. I watch, listen, learn, remember and put 2 and 2 together.
Some people need a little more than basic math to figure out and frequently you have to go into calculus or algebra to begin to figure them out.
Everyone of us is a puzzle unto ourselves. We are puzzles as much as we are puzzling to each other. We fit pieces together and then they don’t fit anymore, not because we put them in the wrong place, but because we have changed form.
When they no longer fit us, we have to resize and refit the pieces. This happens continually. So when we can’t keep up with our various form-changing ways, it causes depression which can contribute to the “never felt loved” feeling.
Love is a feeling unlike any other feeling because it is indefinable as much as it is definable.
What you describe as love today can change tomorrow. Defining love puts limits on it. Not defining it takes limits off.
Love is different with each person in which you come in contact. Like a fingerprint or a snowflake, every love experience is different.
Love begins with how you feel about yourself first. If you don’t feel love from yourself first then you won’t feel it from anyone else.
When you can embrace yourself completely and honestly, you have embraced love. Stop searching to fill it from empty taps and tap into the reservoir of love that is inside of you. Once you find it, let it flow.
Within that flow, you will know that you are loved.