Love Is Like Walking On Fire

Love is a many splendid thing that ignites the soul, tingles the body, flutters the heart, lightens the head, makes you feel like you’re walking on air and sometimes makes you utter, “Goo goo gah gah,” like Pebbles Flintstone.

Still some people don’t know what love feels like, what it contains, it’s purpose or how to find it. Others think that it’s a waste of time because when it’s over you feel like you’re walking on broken glass (cue Annie Lennox) or fire.

Love itself is permanent and as I evolve and synthesize the experience of it, I realize that it is not necessarily permanent with one person. To think that someone who swears their love to you could ever swear their love to someone else is shocking at first.

You think that when you’re with someone you will be with them forever. In a way I miss those naive days, but I wouldn’t give up what I know now for what I knew then, it pales in comparison. As it happens more, it becomes less shocking and you become more jaded, but that is not the point of love - to become jaded.

Entering into any relationship, you sign a spiritual contract. Depending on what you have to endure by fulfilling your contract, after a specified time it ends or renews. Everything has a season, time, duration, growth, death, rebirth, regrowth, etc., but you can still give it all you have. It doesn’t mean to spread yourself among as many as possible and not commit to one person.

Committing shows you’re serious about the person and that you’re willing to pool your heart assets. You can’t go into a commitment thinking it’s not going to last. It may not last how you think it will last, but it will last for the exact time that it needs to last.

Commitment means compromising, acquiescing, communicating, sparing feelings, anything that preserves the integrity of what brought you together because making them happy makes you happy and they feel the same way.

When the commitment enters its final season and you’re not prepared, it can throw you for a loop - that’s where fire-walking comes in. Fire-walking is the act of walking barefoot over a bed of hot embers and has been practiced by various cultures in the world as far back as 1200 B.C. Often used as a rite of passage, a test of strength, healing, courage, or a test of religious faith.

You may thinking, “Alexys, what does this have to do with love?” Glad you asked. People seem to spend more time thinking about break ups than the strength to move on. They become stuck in the “Why’s” instead of learning to be “Wise.”

If you have ever felt like you were walking on fire, you probably were without knowing it. With each initiation into deeper realms of love, you’re walking across fire without even thinking about it. When the fire (the relationship) stops you feel heat.

In fire-walking, (and relationships) two bodies of different temperatures meet, the hotter body cools off and the cooler body heats up, until they are separated (break-up) or meet at a temperature in the middle. During the relationship, your temperature rises and falls giving you the ability to withstand anything because love makes you feel invincible.

Fire-walkers are not really fire-walkers, they are coal walkers. The fire (soul’s itinerary) is lit well ahead of time to allow the wood to burn down to non-flaming coals. Don’t stand in front of the fire bed thinking how painful it is to walk across, you’ve already walked across it several times during your relationship. When entering the fire bed, fire-walkers don’t stand around, they walk briskly, moving on to their next experience.

Because coal is not a very good heat conductor, the time the foot (which mainly consist of water) zips across them is not enough time to induce a burn. While love loss can feel like it’s burning, and you can get burned at times, you will survive to get to your next experience. You are a survivor of love many times over.

It is all a process of coming into your own. Commit yourself to love, keep an open heart and don’t predict everlastingness. Live for the tingling, fluttering, air-walking, soul expansion. Is there anything better than love?