Surf's Up

When you ask yourself what will make you happy, do you struggle to find the answer? Are you so entrenched in what is “wrong” with you that you fail to see what is “right” with you?

Life changes very rapidly and if we don’t follow the changes, then we end up missing opportunities to change. Change can be something we are willing to do or something that we are forced to do.

Regardless of which instance we are in, change is a constant occurrence and we have to ride the wave like an expert surfer who rides the waves without getting wiped out.

Life is about chance, change and consequence - the three C’s. When we know the three C’s of life, then we know what to expect and change is less likely to catch us off guard; although sometimes we are blindsided.

Expect change, embrace change, be the change and let change become you. Change is good.

Are You Wealthy?

Nature is a professor. A sage. A mystic. A prognosticator. A reflector of man. It’s fury gets our attention, bends and breaks faith, but in the end nature doesn’t really change. It’s a catalyst.

Man also has a nature that bends and breaks faith. A nature that by default is faulty, but still redeemable. A nature that is forever facing the tides that pull us under the current. A nature forever questioning position and repositioning ourselves to fit a society of superficiality, wealth, status and debasement when all we need to do is to value our own worth and character.

I am not saying that affluence is the root of all evil or that it doesn’t have its own rewards, which of course it does. Without affluence and philanthropy many charities would be out of business. Even the government gives us an incentive to be philanthropic by way of tax deductions.

Outer wealth is measured by numbers, a googol that is bandied about like status Ticker Tape. We have become quite familiar with three household names over the years that are mentioned so much that we think they are a part of our family.

Whenever the names, Warren Buffet, Bill Gates, or Oprah are so much as uttered, the phrase that automatically comes to our mind is, “They are rich.” In reality, we don’t know how wealthy they really are. We just think because they have money, they have everything, but they don’t. It behooves us not to keep measuring our worth against theirs.

Not only does it make us feel inadequate, envious, and literally worthless, but it’s counter productive to our own goals.

When Tony Robbins can charge $8,000 a head for a seminar to motivate us, then something is wrong with our sense of purpose. When Donald Trump or Robert Kiyosaki can get millions for speaking to us and telling us how they did it, it is nothing more than their individual experiences that were meant for them solely.

What they all neglect to tell us is that there is no formula, no magic, bullet, no genie in a lamp, nothing other than they were all fortunate to be aligned with their destiny. They seized their particular circumstances, unique only to them and within their karmic grasp.

To think that you can replicate their success is a misconception. When Donald Trump bought The Empire State building for one million dollars, no one else wanted it. It was in bad condition from years of neglect. He immediately had an opportunity to rehab it and bring it back to its former glory which added tremendously to his outer wealth. Many motivational speakers have similar stories.

The irony is that when a wealthy person falls, no one wants to know them anymore. When an elephant falls, even the frogs kick him.

So how do we build our own wealth? The true wealth of our spirit, heart and Soul is simply constructed by apprizing, not monetizing ourselves. We must invest in our dreams, our animus, our reason for being. We have to motivate ourselves to be active thinkers, believers and forerunners. Make getting up in the morning a breakfast of champions.

With the smallest of efforts, we can at least begin to tip the scale
of depth and perception and not be confetti that falls into a barren landscape of numbness. Why traverse through life with a soulless existence?

I have faith in man and its nature. It is a nature that in its most defiled consequences, cleans up well. A nature that governs our consciousness. A nature that although bends and cracks along the surface, does not really break altogether. It only looks that way on the outside.

Man is resilient and forever growing. If we don’t change, we don’t grow. If we don’t grow, we die. Not just physically, but mentally, emotionally and spiritually.

We have to embrace all that we are and embrace all that we live. Find value in everyday living. Tap the inner life waiting to spring forth. When we start to dig, we will soon hit a gusher that will splash us with wisdom, the fountain of truth and the secret to happiness.

We must disabuse the definition of what society calls wealthy and embrace real wealth. It’s in valuing ourselves that we reach our true wealth. And a wealthy Soul is priceless.

Positively Negative

Negativity is a chameleon. It’s a teacher that wears many hats and has even more costume changes. Negativity is like a rock star with millions of fans screaming for it. It sings its love song and wants you to sing it back.

Negativity is both a lover and a fighter. It will love you as long and as much as you love it. If you even think of leaving it, it will fight you tooth and nail to get back into your arms.

It’s purpose is to wear you down, get under your skin and into your heart. It makes you think you love it when in fact, it’s tearing you apart piece by piece, until it squeezes the life out of you and has you down for the count. It likes winning and it is often the victor.

Negativity does a lot of damage. Not only does it give you a bad outlook, it makes you look bad. It causes depression, mood swings, loss of friends, loss of love, loss of self-esteem and loss of purpose.

You often hear that, “so and so is so negative, but they can’t help it.” Yes they can. They choose not to do anything about it. They know that they have hurt people along the way, they just don’t want to change.

We all have a personal responsibility to be the most loving creatures that we can be. Granted, it is not always easy coping with the myriad of events designed to expand our human consciousness, but we have to remember our Soul purpose - to get through each day with the least amount of damage.

A negative person can change if they realize that they are doing themselves and those around them harm. Negativity is like a weapon that shoots first and never asks questions later.

Suppose you run into a negative person who shoots down everything you say? Your initial reaction is to defend yourself by deflecting the bullets of their words and actions. The degree of deflection depends on the degree of emotion you attach to it.

This is what fuels the negative person. You have now fallen into their mental trap. Remember that their purpose is to wear you down. You find that your happy mood has been altered because of their negativity. If you choose to argue, then that is negativity heaven.

Even if you choose not to argue, you are still arguing in your head; either with yourself or the other person. You get angry at yourself for not defending yourself. You get angry at them for their actions.

It is not your fault. Some people are so entrenched in negativity it that they spread it like wildfire, destroying everything in its path.

The only way to get rid of negativity is to kill it. You have to fight fire with fire. The next time that you are confronted with negativity, let it fall on deaf ears. Don’t take into your heart. Don’t react to it. Don’t replay it in your head. Don’t give it an audience.

When a child wants something that you don’t want to give it, what do you do? Say no? Ignore it? Walk away?

Whatever action you choose, the child learns that the negative behavior doesn’t get him anywhere. Treat negativity like a child. Give it love, but don’t give into it. Give it guidance, but don’t let it guide you. When you have to walk away, walk away.

Negativity may be strong, but love is stronger.

Welcome To The Party

Welcome to my new home. A new home, new chapter, new domain, new title, new everything. Having something new is always wonderful and I plan to keep it new.

I have lots of new articles planned, lots of ideas in my head that are waiting to get out and make a splash. Lots of lots.

Though the paint is still wet, dust is still on the floor, I am slowly finishing everything off.

Have you ever gone into a business that was open during construction? Through the plastic tarps, the empty cans of paints, the used rollers, miscellaneous pieces of wood, power tools and various construction workers, you can see the change taking place.

As soon as we think we have finished growing, there is always something somewhere that makes us grow even more. There is no end to this thing called life. We are all evolving all the time.

New experiences are always just around the corner. We have to keep ourselves open to them and what makes it even better is that we can face new experiences with love.

So stick around and help make this blog experience as fulfilling as the last one. It’s all about the Soul to Soul connection we have with each other - - and that’s the coolest thing on the planet.

It’s going to be a great experience here. I can feel it already.

A Little Change Is Good

So far if you've been following these posts and implementing the techniques, you have begun to see some changes.

Even if it is a little change -- a little change is Big!

You may have noticed that your life has become more harmonious and your inner spirit more peaceful.

You are more in tuned with the flow of life. Instances that may have annoyed you don't bother you anymore. You're beginning to achieve a deeper connection to life.

All of these benefits only took a small investment into your own well-being. If you haven't experienced change yet, you will. You may not notice it at first, but it is coming.

Change does not happen over night, but it does happen. Not thy will. Thy will be done.